Responsibility: Meeting Life's Demands Participants Guide

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Record thoughts and questions here that come up as you watch the episode.  Explore them later with the group.
Listen to God’s Word: Genesis 2, 1 Peter 4:7-11




Discuss the Episode

1.Henry describes adulthood as gaining authority and expertise and taking responsibility for our lives.  Many experts think that entry into adulthood in the US is being delayed.  Do you think that is the case?  Why or why not?

2.Genesis 2 implies that God has given us a life, with responsibility and influence, within a part of His creation.  Have you ever thought about adulthood that way?  How does that excite you?  In what ways is it frightening?

3.Henry mentions that confidence comes from gaining expertise in an area through practice, instruction, and hard work, not through building “self-esteem”?  Do you agree or disagree?  How would this influence our view of our gifts and talents?  Our parenting styles?

4.We grow more through our sense of need and being put in situations where we are out of our comfort zone than through learning information.  When was the last time you were out of your comfort zone?  How did it feel?  How did you grow?  How does this perspective influence your perspective on spiritual and personal growth?

5.Henry describes the church as a marvelous community with a diversity of gifts where we can learn from each other.  Take some time in your group to share what strengths you see in each other.  How have you learned from one another?

Resources for Further Growth

Reflect on What Others Have to Say
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Everyone who has ever lived has encountered a particular problem: being born a little person in a big person’s world and being given the task of becoming a big person over time.  [We all deal with] the problem of coming out from under a one-down relationship to the adult world and assuming one’s role as an adult equal with other adults… Becoming an adult is assuming the authority position of life, an important part of the image of God.
Dr. Henry Cloud, Changes That Heal

First, we must accept the circumstances we constantly find ourselves in as the place of God’s kingdom and blessing.  God has yet to bless anyone except where they actually are, and if we faithlessly discard situation after situation, moment by moment, as not being “right,” we will simply have no place to receive his kingdom into our life.  For those situations and moments are our lives.
Dallas Willard, The Divine Conspiracy: Rediscovering Our Hidden Life in God

This process of starting as little people and becoming equal with big people begins with bonding, having boundaries and separateness, and resolving good and bad, but ultimately has to do with coming out from under the one-down relationship that a child has to parents and other adults and coming into an equal standing as an adult on his or her own. This is the final step of development so that one can exercise the gifts and responsibilities God has given. It is a big leap into adulthood, but we are supposed to become equal with other adults.  Then we can all be siblings—brothers and sisters—under the fatherhood of God.
Dr. Henry Cloud, Changes That Heal

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